The side effects of sanctuary
Last weekend I asked my husband if he wanted to go out to dinner or to a movie. He gave an embarrassed laugh and said, “You know, I’d honestly rather stay in.” I chuckled, said I felt the same, but didn't want to seem boring. He laughed and said that wanting to stay home is a side effect of sanctuary.I paused, smiled, and ran to jot that thought down in my notebook.A side effect of sanctuary? I love that!Ever since I put focused intention into the creation of a true sanctuary for myself and my family, the amount of time we spend at home has definitely increased. As has the quality of that time. But this brief exchange with my husband really made me think -- are there other side effects of sanctuary?I can’t answer for anyone else, I only know what I’ve experienced. I meditate more. I sleep better. My creative output -- the unscheduled, delicious kind of creative work I love most -- has blossomed and bloomed. Seriously. In the 40-some-odd years that have led up to this day, I have never painted so much, enjoyed my garden so much, baked and cooked with such abandon. I’ve been learning about things that are interesting to me -- making herbal remedies and products, reiki, sacred geometry. And why not? I have the perfect place to explore them. A place that inspires me to relax, to be in the moment, to unfurl my wings and follow my curious mind.But it occurs to me that the most surprising side effect of all is that I am simply happier. More settled. And more in love with the life that I’m leading than I have ever been. I’m not trying to sound like one of those inspirational gurus that promise a life of sunshine and roses. I have had my share of wrenching challenges and desperate days, and I’m sure I will continue to have them. It’s life, after all. And I hope I don't shock you when I say that it's a little less than perfect sometimes.I had a friend worry out loud to me this week about turning 50 and as I listened to her concerns, I realized that I am not worried about it at all. Not one bit. I can’t wait to see what my 50’s bring. If my 40’s are any indication, it’s going to be amazing. And why is that? I can only think that it’s because somewhere along the road to sanctuary, I stopped looking outward for meaning and for recognition. Focusing inward has given me strength, resilience, courage and grace. And in there I have found all the meaning and recognition I ever need.And what about you? What are the side effects of sanctuary in YOUR life? I’d love to hear.With gratitude,Lisa